Freedom From Bondages, Soul Ties


Too many people suffer with unexplainable bondages, addictions and habits. Counselling doesn’t seem to help, and special help groups are no help at all. Their days are spent in the craving after their addiction, yet they spend those days in torment for they hate the craving. What about unexplainable attractions to casual relationship, why does a song or the whiff of a scent bring back memories of a person long gone away only to have that person upon the heart for days or weeks. Phycologists have many varied solutions, yet none seem to work why? Freedom can come but not until the person comes to understand the ties that bind. For that is exactly what you must deal with, soul ties.

What is a soul tie, something that ties the soul to itself would be the most simplest definition. To understand a soul tie one must understand what the soul is, it is defined as: the will of man, the seat of the emotions, the passions of man, his desires, the vital force which animates the body, the centre of man.

A tie is: something which binds, fasten or constrains, to unite in marriage, to confine, to be equal, to limit ones activities, to establish a position, to hinder or impede, to bring to a stop, make inactive.

Therefore a soul tie is something within the centre of man which binds that man, a force which will exert its power over the will of man driving that person into inactivity or activating its desire over the emotions of man.

1 Samuel 18:1,“And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. And Saul took him that day, and would let him go no more home to his father’s house. Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul.”

Here we see that the souls of two men were knit or tied together. This tie would be the bases for the covenant that David would honor until he died, right down to looking after Jonathans son 2 Samuel 9:1-13.

David and Jonathan actually formed a covenant because they loved each other so deeply. Their souls were knit together (tied or joined together). The stronger the bonding or soul ties between friends the deeper and more lasting the relationship is. The emotional and mental strengths of one sustain the other in times of adversity. (Difficulties or misfortune) and allows them to rejoice with the other in the time of triumph.

When love between friends is pure and not polluted by any selfish desire, the bond between them works well in their lives.

Jesus speaks of this kind of love in John 15:13 Greater love hath no man than this that a man lay down his life for his friends.That is the kind of love Jonathan and David had, and that is why it was a Godly soul tie. Because of this type of Godly soul tie forms the basis for a good marriage and an enduring relationship. They truly had a great friendship, and because of the deepness and pureness, the two souls drew strength and encouragement from each other as well as security and love.

In order to have this kind of friendship, you have to very selective and get wisdom from God. The Holy Spirit will teach you how to have this kind of relationship. It takes people that have a pure and giving heart and puts their love in action. If you have a close friend in your life right now and they have these characteristics that is good. If they are selfish and controlling, you need to pray and get the wisdom from above on what to do, because the friendship could become dangerous, because your souls are knit together, emotionally and this is not a Godly soul tie.

Eccl 4:9-12 “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

Two people tied together, working as one overcoming together pushing forth into victory. Notice they are tied together the third one known as the cord is the Holy Spirit. They are soul tied.

Mat 18:19 “Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven.”

When Godly men or women are in unity (in the state or quality of being one) or actually tied in oneness nothing becomes impossible for them to achieve.

A soul tie could also be described as a covenant relationship, relationships which are built upon a combination of words and action. A husband takes a wife, they pronounce certain vows over their life and the marriage is consummated (which means to become complete and perfected in every way). Thus, becoming one being soul tied together. Now what happens when the same action is applied with couples that “just live together?” The exact same action, they too become soul tied making a breakup of the relationship just as difficult as the formally married couple.

Think of it in this manner, soul ties are a piece of cloth many small cords knit together. When the cloth is torn it becomes frayed all those small cord damaged some beyond the repair of even the most exceptional seamstress or tailor. The unrepaired cord eventually tears again and again and yet again. Every tear bringing a new hurt every hurt requiring a more healing than the last the recover from until eventually the hurt becomes too great and the injured leave. Unfortunately the injured one seeks out another with whom they can form a new piece of cloth (new soul ties) someone who fits comfortably or is exactly like the first and so the whole process begins all over until tearing and breaking.

Isa 54:5 “For thy Maker is thine husband; the LORD of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called.”

Eph 5:30-31 “For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.”

Soul ties explain abnormal attractions, stalkers, the Stockholm syndrome (A phenomenon in which a hostage begins to identify with and grow sympathetic to his or her captor), victims of rape, serial murders, and many others who cannot explain “why” they act as they do. Soul ties explain why victims of such crimes are sympathetic to the criminals, or why the abused stay with their abuser.

2 Cor 6:14-18 “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?15 “And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, 18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.”

An ungodly soul tie will attempt to control one through manipulation, mind control (games) intimidation, threats, bringing emotional bondage upon the victim. Bondage of any kind is unholy. Rom 8:15 “For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.”

When our strongest soul tie is to God, there is a divine covering and protection (a force) that will enable us to withstand ungodly soul ties from forming. That force is called The Holy Ghost. He is the reason that when someone receives Christ as their saviour all bondage goes and a new man is created freed from that which binds him including soul ties. The new person has a desire to do what is right and will actually take immediate actions to correct any wrongs, change bad action and do what is right. Some time there may be a price one must pay for previous actions but it is small when the results are taken into consideration.

Soul ties live and attack the realm of the soul, (the mind, will and emotions) that is the reason they are so difficult to deal with. Music, food, scents, memories are all triggers to soul ties, desire being the biggest result of a soul tie. A triggered memory creates a desire, desire drives the will and the will forces an action. Sometimes good, sometimes bad. The tied soul will always follow that process, trigger-desire-will-action. Therefore it becomes imperative that the Holy Spirit lead a person so that all triggers are Godly and not unholy.

The Holy Spirit lead person is a free person not given over to unholy triggers. John 8:36 “If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.”

Some desires are of God and those are the ones we need to follow after and be triggered by.

Mark 11:24-25 “Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them. And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.” When the desire is of, by and for God it becomes. It will follow the same process pattern but it becomes.

Notice that the verse also tells how to break a soul tie. “If you have ought” the word ought means probability or likelihood, desirability. A soul tie. The key to breaking a soul tie is two fold A) first pray. A prayer first comes through the spirit is anchored in the soul and made manifest by the word which are spoken. A life of prayer is a life of freedom, a person given to prayer will be a person freed from soul ties. B) Forgive, forgiveness in its truest sense is a ruling spirit of the soul which has the power to eliminate unholy soul ties at the very moment the pattern is set into action. The fight with soul ties is over once we truly forgive.

2 Cor 10:3-5 “For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh:4 (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) 5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;” Soul ties are strongholds, strongholds which are destroyed through forgiveness. True forgiveness actually allows one to forgive and forget because the destroyed soul tie can no long keep the ought in ones mind.

Eph 6:10-18 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.11Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.13 Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.14 Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness;15 And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace;16 Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.17And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:18 Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;

Remember it is God’s armour therefore the enemy doesn’t know if it is God or you in the armour, which means you win, the fight with the soul ties (or anything else the enemy may bring) is over and you win.



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13 responses to “Freedom From Bondages, Soul Ties

  1. Misty

    I need help PLEASE…: I am looking for a neat Hebrew word that means excellence, integrity, fullfilled hope, dignity, restoration…, all of these pure attributes we want to see in ourselves and others…

  2. jacque


    I am wanting to know how to pray to be set free from a soul tie of husband and wife, where the husband has passed away 10 years ago and now the widow wants to marry again. How do you pray for the wife to be set free from the soul tie of her previous husband so she can move into her new marraige free of soul ties from the past. Please can you advise me.

    • Praying to be set free from soul ties (any kind) requires the simple faith of what God says He does. “He has made the promise that whom He sets free is free indeed.” Soul ties that control your thoughts, your will and your emotions are those which need to be broken. Nothing but the will of God may be in control of the centre of your life. We often find it so difficult to define the will of God but Jesus in the Lord’s prayer gave just a simple rule to judge His will by, he said, “as it is in heaven so let be on earth” So when it comes those ties of the past what would God’s will be. To live with a memory or a longing desire which can never be, or to have God fufill His will in our life. His will is defined as love, joy, hope, peace, longsuffering etc.

      A widowed person must break the soul ties through prayer and speaking the words that will set them free. Confirming those words with a personal and private taking of communion is always a good idea thus releasing the ties that bind to Jesus and covering them in His blood, never allowing them to be found again.

      Not breaking soul ties of pervious relationships is the primary reason for second, third, fourth (and so on) marriages failing. Elizabeth Talyor is a great example, she remains tied to Richard Burton and always will, causing all her secondary realtionships to fail.

      The breaking of the soul ties also realeases one from the so called bad memories and in fact any memory which will place a stumbling block in the new relationship. No new releationship should be entred into without the former soul ties being severed.

      The prayer of faith and the communion gives the new marriage the footing it requires to begin the right way, God’s way.

  3. Excellent study on soul ties! I really enjoyed reading this article God bless you and your ministry!

  4. Evelyn

    Please tell me how I can pray for my husband who I feel has not left his mother to cleave to me. I feel that there is an unhealthy soul tie between them, but I dare not tell him. Please could I advise how I should pray for that hold to be broken.

    • Evelyn, your own wwords are your answer, prayer. Nothing is stronger than a petition of the heart. God will answer. Scripture tells us that a man will leave his mother to cleave to his wife, in prayer thank God for this to happen. He has chosen it by choosing you, a very good decision. trust God to fullfil His Word. Prayer the Word softly and gently over him and then watch God turn him.


  5. myrene garland

    Fantastic! May I have your permission to summarize in a book i”m writing(different topic).

    Myrene Garland

  6. pamela

    The soul tie between my husband and I have been broken years ago. I had filed for divorce and some major issues were settled and a new court appointment was given. We were in the process of divorce he had a 5th heart attack and a triple bypass. We were seperated when I got the call from the dr’s telling me they had done all they could for him and now he needed the human touch that would aid in his recovery. I had moved out and on and had developed a friendly and hopeful long term relationship with another individual.This individual whom I had fallen deeply in love with asked that I do the right thing by assisting my husband back to health and take him into my new home for such reasons.
    His health did not afford us the chance of returning to court. His Dr. addressed the court regarding his medical condition and all future court dates were cancelled. It’s been two years now and he’s now developed prostate cancer. I continue to assist him as agreed.
    My love awaits for me and I him. He’s become impatient, however knows what I am doing is good for my husband, but is causing me some saddness for I long to be with someone else.
    My beloved had an relationship and now I am grieving. He maintained this relationship for a year. I knew just about when the breach happened, but he refused to tell me. He felt i wasn’t able to handle the betrayal and lied.
    We have bonded together for just about five years now and this breach have caused a riff in our relationship. We are attempting to repair it.
    The QUESTION:: Am I still soul tied to my husband, although I honestly do not feel any connection. I do feel connections to my beloved and awaits him as my spouse.

    • Pamela,
      You ask very difficult question to answer in this form, so please take the response based on the little information you have provided. I would clearly ask the question why? First regardless of the promise made to you by your “beloved” he has proven to be less than what you have had in your heart, unfaithful and untrue, therefore I can only caution you on proceeding further with your relationship. God considers your heart too precious to see it broken another time. There of course are soul ties here and although I am hesitant to say these are unholy as well. But I believe you already know this in your heart.

      Now regarding your husband, I do not see that a divorce is final yet, so there will remain soul ties. Your care for him is admirable but possibly misplaced. What I read within your letter is more apathy than sympathy, apathy is defined as: 1. Absence or suppression of passion, emotion, or excitement. 2. Lack of interest in or concern for things that others find moving or exciting. I see more of these in your letter than any kind of attachment. You seem to be attending to someone who cares not for you and may be using your obligation to keep your life on hold and within his control (illness or not.)

      You mention human touch is needful for recovery (and it is) but that touch must be be infused with compassion please read…ges-compassion/ without the compassion you are simply a nurse performing duties.

      You must focus on you not on an unfaithful person nor on one who can manipulate your due to his unfortunate circumstances. We are commanded to love, love is doing the right thing at all times, please consider finding a good counselor in your city for more consideration and some who can pray for you with power and authority.

      If you wish send me an email to www. with just ypur name and city and I will put you in touch with a good person to assist you.


  8. Veronica Marie

    I have recently learned of soul ties.I have been married 10yrs.. I developed a soul tie to another married man.. Let me first say we did not fornicate. but we did bond emotionally and developed love for one another. I am having great difficulty braking this tie… we have cut communication with one another..I have been seeking counsel through church.. I know this tie needs to be severed but it is extremely painful..I have been asking God for help.. any other advice that can help me..Marie

    • Veronica,
      Thank you for your comment. it is good to see your desire to be free and you are going about it the right way. Continue to seek counsel from your church just be sure they have an understanding as to what you are dealing with. Soul ties confuse many because we no longer call them this however called what they are today “vows, commitments, agreements and contracts” we can understand them and know what we are dealing with. When we vow we promise to complete a certain action left unfulfilled the words will struggle to complete imprinting upon the soul. If the words create a life long commitment then the tie could remain for life. Which is what we see in 2 Samuel 9 with David raising Johnathan’s son Mephibosheth to become a prince of the kingdom forever. Remember most soul ties do not come from sexual relationships (many do) but come from the words we have spoken tying us to fulfill the words. So if they come via words then they can be broken also by words. Speak the word of God against a unholy soul tie and it must go. Look at Psalms 148:5 Let them praise the name of the Lord: for he commanded, and they were created. 6 He hath also stablished them for ever and ever: he hath made a decree which shall not pass. 7 Praise the Lord from the earth, ye dragons, and all deeps: 8 Fire, and hail; snow, and vapours; stormy wind fulfilling his word: Here we see nothing can stand before the Word of God. The dragon is of course Satan or his demons and the deep is the residence were they live. But no matter what they throw the storms of life, they cannot stand before the spoken Word of God.

      Do not feed the tie with memories that come forth in words instead starve it but speaking what the Word says and not what your feelings says. Feelings control, the Word comforts. Psalm 131:2 says, “Surely I have calmed and quieted my soul like a weaned child with his mother. Like a weaned child is my soul within me ceased from fretting.” You calm your soul through the speaking and meditations of the Word of God. Philippians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

      Love your husband more, but loving him through the Holy Spirit and speak words of Love from the Word of God. Please stay in touch and share my blog with others if you will.

      Be Blessed.

      Renounce any

  9. miss J

    Thank you very much you have taught me about things that i did not know nor understand thank you for helping me to become a true warrior for Christ .

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